Conversation doesn’t equal confrontation

 So as a black female small business owner I have learned so manylife lessons on this new journey that I am on. So I pose the question to you when as an entrepreneur or any business relationships or personal relationships have you ever came across a situation that you truly wanted the other person to understand your position on a particular subject, however you were finding yourself being frustrated by the persons inability to understand your point of view? 

Being an entrepreneur is not something I gave much thought to growing up because you are conditioned to fit inside of the box that was created for you. And in this journey of my life is somethings so new that I have never seen it done before.

So when I tell you I entered the journey very green and naïve. There was a particular situation where I made a connection to someone who has a bigger platform and who has were knowledge than I. With this particular situation I was told one thing but ended completely different. 

I found myself and frustrated because I wanted to have a conversation without repercussions of a confrontation if that makes sense. I am one that does not want to burn bridges especially because I have such a high moral background. And in this particular situation I honestly didn’t know what to do I’ve felt very frozen like I could not speak up because I didn’t want that confrontation. 

So I felt I had to ask myself do you want someone to possibly Italian on you guys? And in this situation I didn’t speak up. With that being said where are your thoughts, do you feel you can have a conversation with someone without it being confrontational? And where I’ll see this problem for me is in my own community be at siblings family business associates I find that so many people don’t speak up because they feel it will get confrontational. And I want to know what will it take for our community to be able to approach a situation and be able to say their truth without it being a fall out.  Is this even possible? So many times I see on social media women tearing each other down be at words or actual physical violence and it’s almost that people expect that from us and I really would like to change the narrative of that. Share your thoughts would love to hear your view on this topic. 

My Letter to You

So its been about 6 years since we last spoke wow I can't believe how time flies so I want to catch you up on a couple of things I had a baby girl about 5 years ago now in February her name is Amaya she is so beautiful and such a character too you would definitely have fallen in love with this one. I know what u are thinking it's about time you had that girl. I'v been doing good working and taking care of the kids Potsy is ok too he says hello, still working at the hospital trying to figure out a way how to go to nursing school but I know somehow someway I'll be able to finish school one day. The boys are getting bigger they always ask about you too. Pooh is almost 13 now can you believe it, I know I can't either. Words cannot express how much I miss you and I don't think you will ever know how much you meant to me how many times I think I hear your voice then I remember oh you're not there. I just wanted to write you and let you know how much I miss you and love you and that everything you taught me, everything you instilled in me was not in vain. I'm only the mother that I am today because of you I know there are so many times I should of said or expressed how I felt to you but I just couldn't because it was hard for me to express myself then but I want you to know now how much you really mean to me you were my everything you still are my everything.  I never wanted you to go I couldn't believe that you left I was confused I couldn't believe it it was just like at the drop of a dime you had gone you had left me I couldn't believe it I didn't want you to go I don't want you to go but it's a little late for that right. I want you to know you are my everything you are my reason for leaving you are the reason why I get up in the morning and you give me the strength to make it through each day. I know it times it seems like it was hard for me to say it before but I can definitely say it now I love you mom and I miss you and I can't wait to see you again. I know some of you are wondering what is this letter about this letter to my mom she passed away 6 years ago from cancer she was the closest thing to me in this world besides my husband and my kids. I wanted to take this time to write this letter to her  because I didn't get a chance to say goodbye, so I wrote this hoping that if everything my mom taught me growing up is true somehow someway she will be able to hear my words. I love you mom,  one day I hope I will be able to see your face again. if there is any lesson to be learned from this blog it would be that if you have the chance to tell the person in your life that you love them let them know every chance you get because you never know when that chance can be taken away in just a blink of an eye.

Do dreams really do come true

I ask myself this question can i really make my dreams come true. I say depending on what your economic background is. If you are a person from a poor economic backgrounds the answer to this question will be no. What means would you have to support your dreams when most people have to go to work after high school they don't have a opportunity to go to college like most people find a more privileged background. I will use myself for an example, I come from a very under-privileged background so for me after high school I had to go straight to work there was no opportunity for me to be able to go to a state college or university even though my dreams and hopes wanted me to. I wanted to go to college and make more myself I knew my financial background would not allow me to do so. So given the situation you have a person who might have dreams and hopes but realistically not able to meet those  expectations because they have to go to work to support themselves versus a person who has a much better  background on the financial aspect for you be able to go to college without having to work this is what I believe most people face in life is that they might have dreams of going on a college in making better for themselves but don't have the means to do so. Do dreams come true yes if you have the right background not if you have a background of underprivileged up bringings. So you tell me what is the solution for a person to do in this situation how are they able to make their dreams come true?  yes there are programs out there but a lot of the times if you don't have a low enough income background or you don't have children as dependents you don't qualify for a lot of these programs so therefore you are trying to make better for yourself if I have a job which just pays the bills but doesn't allow you to be able to further your education to get you out of the current situation you are in. This is a question that I have been asking my self how many years now I have been out of school have been wanting to further my education I don't have the means to do so its not that I don't want to better myself its that there's nothing I can do to better myself as far as my education to go to a state college or university to be able to get out of the economic situation that I am in. I feel that people that can relate to my story which is why I wanted to create a blog to post this question for you. So what do you really do? I have researched program but because I make a little bit more than minimum wage I don't qualify for a lot of programs that are out there, because I did want better for my family, and yes you can choose to pay student loans who wants to be in that for a lot of years of their life. I want to be able to answer this question. So when kids come to me and ask me or tell me that they have a dream I want to be able to tell them that they can follow there dreams no matter where they come from but is that really a honest answer you tell me.